PAX (13): Caffey, Cookie, False Start, FannyPack, Lefty, MillerTime, No-See-Um, Pinkey, PitStop, Red Ryder, Scar, Special K, Saigon Sam
YHC grabbed the Q once I heard Saigon Sam, the JAX Nantan, would be joining us. I wanted to ensure the Alpha gave him a memorable beatdown that he could take back south when he left. Small threat of thunderstorms were predicted, but by 5:30am all was clear. 3 pre-runners emerged from the gloom to join the 13 total PAX ready to take their Daily Red Pill. YHC gathered the PAX and asked if anyone knew the significance of April 14th. 110 years ago the Titanic sunk on this very day. YHC disclaimed that we would be taking on the Titanic…. and off into the gloom we went.
Head over to the pool parking lot for high knees, karaoke left, karoake right, backwards run. Circle up for SSH, smurf jacks, Windmill & Imperial Walker. Grab a coupon from the pile and now on to the main dish.
THE TITANIC – each exercise builds on itself. Example: Run 1 lap, come back, do 5 burpees, run a lap. Then 10 merkins, 5 burpees, then a lap, etc.
15 Bonnie Blairs
20 Overhead press
40 Shoulder taps
**YHC also had a bonus round built-in at the end, but the Titanic sunk us before we were able to finish. Millertime and Caffey pushed the pace and almost finished in time. Millertime stayed behind to finish while the rest of the PAX deposited the coupons. Back to the flag for 1 minute of mary.
Continued prayers for the friends and family of Ready-Mix, aka Stewart Evans. Celebration of Life next Tuesday at 7pm at Perimeter Church. Saigon Sam asked for prayers for the former JAX Nantan, Heisenberg, as he is fighting a very deadly cancer. Gratitude was offered for our ability and health to be able to post in the gloom with our brothers. Allow us to never take this for granted.
Coffeeteria and TNT followed. No-See-Um brought some sweet treats and YHC gave a truth nugget about The Gap & the Gain.
Content inspired by the book “The Gap and the Gain” by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Are you living in the Gap or the Gain?
Living in the “gap”, means you are chasing an unreachable and always moving ideal, and you are never truly happy. Living in the “gain” means that you use happiness as a starting point and measure progress by looking backwards. In the Declaration of Independence, Thomas Jeffeson wrote about 3 unalienable rights given by our creator using the phrase “Life, Liberty and the pursuit of happiness”. Although Jefferson’s intention was good, he missed the mark about happiness being something that you pursue. This notion helped shape the culture in America that happiness is unattainable. By saying happiness is something we are pursuing, the implication is that we do not have it now. You do not pursue something you already have. By embracing the never ending pursuit of happiness, we rob ourselves from the accomplishments of who we are today, and what we have achieved to this point in our lives. When you are chasing happiness externally, it is because you are disconnected internally. When you are disconnected internally, you are trying to fill a gap. Instead, choose happiness now. Then expand upon your happiness as you measure gains in your life.
Ideals are not something you actually ever achieve. Trying to pursue an ideal always puts you in the gap. Ideals are like the horizon in the desert, they illuminate the path ahead and give you measurable and achievable targets. But like the horizon, ideals are immeasurable, unreachable and constantly moving. Ideals are not something to measure yourself against. A much better formula for happiness, confidence and success is to measure backwards. By doing so you liberate yourself from the gap, you get off the never ending treadmill of working harder trying to reach an unreachable goal, and you stop comparing or competing with anyone else.
Needs vs. Wants
Needing anything outside of yourself is a form of being in the gap. You have an unhealthy attachment to something external. For instance, you need that promotion at work or you need that person’s approval. When you are driven by need instead of want, you have a desperation to fulfill that need. The problem is that these needs become unresolved internal pain. When you are in the gap, you fail to look inside and to admit that you are miserable.
Training yourself to be happy is 100% internal, and is a form of living in the gain. Happiness cannot come from something outside yourself. It is a single player game.
Why is living in the gain important?
A recent poll revealed that only about 14% of adults say they are very happy. Research also shows that happy people live up to 10 years longer than unhappy people. The way to be happy is to not measure your happiness against an ideal. Instead, always measure backwards. Focus on the gains you are making. Happiness should always be your starting point. It should expand when you realize the gains you’ve made.